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Read all about their amazing big day here…
How did he ask?
Phil and I met on a dating website and our first date was early 2014. In January 2018 we were living at Phil’s parent’s house whilst we were saving for a mortgage. We had been saving some extra money in a smashable savings pot which we had decided to break open once we completed on the new house. I’m a very impatient person and one Sunday evening, we were lounging around watching TV when I said ‘I think we should smash the jar!’ Phil seemed unsure and reminded me we had said we’d wait. I agreed he was right and we should wait a little longer.
Within the next 10 minutes, I’d grabbed a hammer and some newspaper and said ‘let’s do it!’. Whilst counting up all the money I found something small wrapped up in bubble wrap and looked at Phil confused to ask ‘what’s that?’. Phil had a big grin on his face, and when I looked more closely there was my perfect engagement ring inside. I’m not into big flashy proposals, so his proposal was lovely and intimate, and very unique to us.
Tell us about the ceremony?
We had our whole day at Upton barn and walled garden, and it was truly magical. The ceremony was in the cider barn – a beautiful barn with beams, high ceilings and fairy lights. The whole venue was decorated with breath-taking flowers supplied by Rachael’s flowers. We had seasonal flowers in reds and purples to match our Autumnal theme, with some sunflowers to commemorate my dad.
I was calmer than I’d imagined during the wedding prep but as 2 pm crept closer the nerves kicked in. I had always been worried about walking down the aisle and being the centre of attention is my worst fear but when it was time, I felt so excited to see Phil and marry my best friend. I will admit though, I was relieved when the ceremony was over so I could start to relax.
The weather had been really awful in the week before the wedding, but I had a trick up my sleeve. A friend had told me of an old wives tale about burying a sausage in the garden the night before the wedding to bring good weather, so that’s exactly what I did! The weather held off all day so we were able to capture some precious moments outside in the venue grounds and everybody kept commenting how burying a sausage obviously works!
The wedding breakfast was held in the stable barn where we added some more personal touches to the décor, like place names, centrepieces and a table plan all made by us. Our maid of honour, best man and Phil all did speeches which were brilliant and had everyone in stitches. The reception was in the cider bar, press bar and courtyard and went by in a blur, and I remember at 11.30 pm feeling sad that it was almost over. We hired a photo booth (Fine city photobooths) which was an absolute hit with our guests and had some sparkler photos outside. There was such a lovely atmosphere, and it was nice that guests could sit and chat in the press bar if they didn’t want to dance.
Entertainment and food:
We had a local two-piece band called Double-A and the Bay play at our reception and they provided such a great atmosphere – nothing was tearing me away from that dancefloor! Our food was catered by Peter Mundy Catering Services and we had a ‘posh picnic’ of meats, salads, breads and goose fat roast potatoes. Dessert was an incredible chocolate brownie with butterscotch sauce and raspberry cheesecake. Peter also catered our evening reception where we had a selection of pies and cheeses.
In the evening we also had giant marshmallows to toast on the fire pits and our wedding cake made as a gift by a close friend of mine, rellie_bakes. We had a three-tiered cake decorated with Autumn leaves and cute pine cone toppers which she made by hand. Our flavours were; lemon, orange and almond and Victoria sponge with homemade blackberry jam. It was HUGE and we were eating cake for days!
Bridesmaids – how did you ask them?
I always knew who my two bridesmaids would be – my best friend Tori and my sister Charlotte. I couldn’t imagine not having them both by my side on one of the biggest days of my life so I sent them both a postcard in the post of balloons saying ‘let me pop the question’. I also had two flower girls, our nieces Molly (6) and Alethea (14 months) who looked like little princesses on the day and did us both so proud. My mum, Donna, was also a really important part of our day as she walked me down the aisle as my dad passed away 2 years ago.
It was important to us both that Phil’s three best friends from school had a special role in our day too. Phil’s best man was Tom, and we also had Sam and Chris as groomsmen and honorary joint second-best man. Sam and Chris even did a surprise part in the speeches which was lovely.
How did you know your dress was the one?
I always thought I knew exactly what kind of dress I wanted and had this vision of me in a lacy A-line with an illusion neckline. When I went to try on dresses, the A line’s absolutely swamped me and made me look bigger. I was always really wary of trying on anything tight-fitting as I thought it would be unflattering, however, I couldn’t believe how well my dress accentuated my curves. I added a lace bolero and sparkly belt which completely transformed the dress and made it more ‘me’. I didn’t cry when I found the dress, I just couldn’t stop smiling when I was wearing it, which was enough for me to know that it was ‘the one’.
I’ve never been much of a jewellery wearer, so I went for some small, silver leaf stud earrings, and a silver bracelet with a leaf decoration to match our Autumnal theme, as well as my ashes into glass necklace which was made with my late dad’s ashes so he could walk me down the aisle in spirit. I wore white crochet converse with burgundy laces to match the bridesmaid’s dresses which was the best decision ever! I don’t usually wear heels and I was so comfortable all day.
Which part of the day really stands out for you?
My favourite part of the day was probably our first dance, another thing I’d been unnecessarily stressing about! When it was time for us to have our dance, it was such a beautiful moment. As cliché as it sounds, it really did feel like we were the only people in the room in our own little bubble. Our first dance song was something really personal to us throughout our relationship and brought another element of ‘us’ to the wedding. After a couple of minutes, we invited our friends and family to the dancefloor to join us.
Another part that stood out was just how much we had put into the day ourselves to make it truly personal. Phil is a drum teacher and he made our card box by repurposing an old drum, we spray painted and used stencils to create our order of the day pallet and I made huge batches of chocolate covered honeycomb as wedding favours – just to name a few! When you add your own personal touches, you know your wedding will be unique to you as a couple, and that makes it even more special.
For those curvy ladies out there who want to shed some pounds before the big day, I put so much pressure on myself to lose weight and guess what? I put on a stone! But I felt absolutely beautiful, incredible, spectacular! Never have I ever felt so amazing in my life. Accept yourself, embrace yourself and most importantly, LOVE YOURSELF. Your friends, family and husband/wife love you for who you are. Honestly, there will be some photos you despise, because that’s life and candid photography catches some awkward angles, but they are raw and still as part of your day as the flawless, frame-worthy pictures.
Also, choose your suppliers wisely. Our photographer (Zac Gibson wedding Photography) was an old friend who made us both feel completely relaxed and at ease throughout the day and delivered absolutely stunning photography and videography. My hair and makeup artist Laura (Laura Elisabeth MUA) was so down to earth and professional. She completely nailed the look I had envisioned and offered some really great hair and skincare advice prior to the day. We had meetings with all our suppliers before the big day and it really helped us see if they were the right fit for us.
What do you wish you knew before tying the knot?
Not to sweat the small stuff! I spent so much time stressing about things that really didn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. We did a lot of DIY pieces ourselves and I worried about how they would look and what people would think. But I needn’t have worried because they all looked brilliant, and really brought the décor of our day together. I also worried a lot about being the centre of attention, but I was having such a great time that I didn’t even notice.
List of the suppliers from our wedding:
Hair and MUA: https://www.lauraelisabethmua.co.uk/